The widow reveals the two fundamental attitudes of the Church (bride) before Christ (groom): waiting in hope and the certainty of the encounter. Conjugal love wounded by material absence continues purified by pain and sublimated in memory, preparing the reunion. She relives her experience internally, illuminating it with an eternal love. 

Married life is a progressive education for a new way of being, where the temporary absence marked by the lacerating pain of separation gives way to a spiritual bond that incorporates what has already been experienced into a new way of living; in relationships, both family, professional and social, it sows a new love whose sweetness and greatness goes beyond what is seen and experienced through the senses.

The spiritual dimension of love illuminates and makes relationships fertile with new shoots, new sensations in which the love of God fills the voids of solitude. The widow, especially if she lives the experience of the Ordo Viduarum, strongly lives the gift of charity in her family environment, showering attention on those who need it most, and rekindling the flame of hope in their hearts. Secondly, she opens herself to the needs of others with a constant action of service and support for those who are not capable of overcoming life's difficulties on their own and need a helping hand. The widow acts as a friendly presence who helps and supports those who are at risk in difficulty. But where does she find the strength for such an exposed mission, she who carries her own fragility in her heart? Jesus said to Saint Catherine of Siena in one of his apparitions: "Make yourself capable and I will become a torrent." Here is the secret: making yourself strong with the strength of Christ.